Do you know what makes a bad situation worse?
The lack of perspective.
This week an illness hit our household hard and just as life sometimes goes, one thing led to another. It could have seemed like we were just doomed. Bound to have a week of misery, self-pity, and despair. Um… not happening on my watch.
One of the gifts this life offers to us is perspective.
Life is full of contrast, a 50/50 split of sunshine vs rain, sleet, snow, or a drought. What makes that not so lovely weather more manageable is perspective.
And your perspective is a choice.
For the full transcript keep reading below.
I’m Amy, a life coach, and personal growth mentor. You’re listening to Roots Change, a grow with me podcast. Yeah. I’m sharing my journey and hopes. It helps you and yours.
What a week!
January’s over February has begun. Today. as I record it’s Groundhog day. Yesterday was the new lunar year. And the COVID is running rampant through my household for the last couple of weeks. Aside from us being sick, we’re all pretty okay. But the real winner this week is winter storm, Landon. Our first, really big snowstorm of the season here in Southern Michigan. And I am here for it. Why? Because we’re all going to be safe and sound at home. We’re all sick. We’re actually expecting about a foot of snow when this is all said and done. And I’m just like, yes, let’s get healthy and out of isolation so that we can go – our new toboggan.
I can see your faces. I’m guessing there’s a little bit of shock and horror like you. What, what is wrong with this chick? Listen, it’s about perspective some here, massive snowstorm and thinks, oh, what a mess.
But I’m choosing to think about movies with my family, homemade hot cocoa. And when this is all over sledding down hills with snow-kissed cheeks. It’s been years since I’ve taken my kids sledding and I don’t even think I’ve ever been on a real toboggan and I’m legitimately excited. We just found one a few weeks ago with like an incredible bargain. It was 250 bucks and we got it for 45. Don’t even ask how. But I’m very, very excited.
And that’s what today’s episode is all about.
Not my endeavors with my toboggan, not about COVID or snowstorms, but perspective. Perspective makes life’s more challenging times manageable. Why does this matter?
Because our life is full of contrast. It’s a 50, 50 split, 50% sunshine, 50% rain, sleet, and snow. That’s the forecast. So what makes it manageable? The rainbows AKA perspective.
When I ask people who are new to my world, why they joined the Roots Change Facebook Group, or why they engage with me in new ways, more than half have told me it’s because they hope my positivity rubs off on them.
When someone says that I’m always flattered and also a little perplexed. You see, it’s not that I’m a super positive person. I’m just like everyone else. I have bad days. I can be a massive a-hole on my worst of them, but how I see the world. How I view any given moment, other people. It’s this conscious choice.
And I learned very early in life that using perspective can help me to see and understand people and find truth and good in almost every situation.
For some reason that 50% of life circumstance that does not tip in our favor, leave some of us feeling very downhearted and jaded a lot of the time for really good reason. At least it sounds like it. But boy does life get better in the shittiest of circumstances when our perspective shifts.
Misery loves company and I don’t want any more of that than my 50 share.
So when I catch myself sliding down that emotional scale, I know it’s time to check my perspective.
You see perspective, isn’t all about seeing the positive in any situation, although that’s definitely a big part of it. It’s about looking at the whole scene, the bigger picture, digging into the story to gain a deeper awareness of what’s really going on in the background, giving yourself context. Being open to different viewpoints, not necessarily to change or sway your beliefs, but to see into something outside of yourself to gain new understandings perspective. It leads to growth and expansion, innovation, as well as understanding healing and love.
So it makes sense that in a podcast about personal growth that’s called Roots Change we talk about perspective. Because once you change your perspective, once you shift your perspective or take ownership over it, roots change. Everything changes. Your life transforms. Personal transformation can take place by you shifting your perspective.
And so of course, I want to talk about it.
I recently had my natal chart reading done by Emily Rideau. Um, you may remember her. She’s an Astro yoga specialist and she was on the Roots Change podcast a few weeks ago, episode 42. Go find it. If you haven’t heard it, it’s titled the gift. You never knew astrology was offering.
And since speaking with her, I have learned and am in continuously learning how I can use astrology in my life to guide me and help me be more -. It’s like the support tool that I now am using and it’s been lovely anyways. So I had this reading and holy sheet cake. It was so fascinating in terms of.
My ability to use perspective is one of my superpowers. I don’t know if she went out and said it. I don’t know if that’s what it says in my chart, but all of the strengths, all of the talents that I have really come down to perspective how I see things is my strength. Having or choosing to use perspective helps me in every single area of my life.
It helps me with my relationship with my children, with my significant other, my friendships within every relationship that I have. It helps me in like personal values that I have in my morality. And it just definitely is a reason. I’m a life coach. It allows me to hold space for people. And to have belief and hold a belief for other people when they don’t even have belief in themselves.
Perspective is probably one of the best damn tools I have.
I believe that if I didn’t have a good perspective in life, my life would be completely different. Right now. It’s really hard to see outside of our environment. But like anything you do, it’s a choice. And if you tend to shut yourself out to other people’s beliefs to not be open to hearing new things, that question something that you believe is a factor.
If you find that you are pulled towards the negative in a situation rather than the positive if you’re a gloom and doom type of a person if you heard me talk about a snowstorm, where, and, and you were like, Oh, my God, that sounds like the worst. And no part of you could see a silver lining in that for yourself.
If you were in my shoes, you might want to shift your perspective. Like I said, it’s what helps us manage life when it’s challenging. And so this week, what I want to offer you, anyone that’s listening, take it or leave it is that you tune into your perspective, your life perspective, your perspective. And every area of life and just find out how you view things.
See if there’s anything that you would like to see shifted. What I’m saying is make it an intention. To notice yourself to be aware of yourself and then to check yourself if you don’t like what you see. So maybe you might notice that you have some tendencies that aren’t reflective of how you want to show up or who you want to be.
Well, you’re going to keep doing the same thing, unless you take the time to notice and be honest that you don’t like what you see and then make a decision to change. And so that’s what I’m saying. I’m just throwing it out. Take this as an opportunity to tune in with yourself. See if there’s anything that you would like to see shifted and your perspective.
Maybe you want to improve it and then do it like don’t just want to, but take action. And just like a few ways that you can improve your perspective. The first thing I’m going to say, which is for me, one of the most important things to me and anybody, if you want to have a heightened quality of life, find ways to be in gratitude, choose gratitude, elevate your gratitude and any given.
When you don’t like how you’re showing up or you don’t, you notice some things going on in your mind and it’s not how you want it to be. If you’re finding yourself being super judgmental or being closed off to other people’s opinions, find gratitude at that moment. Find gratitude, find something to appreciate about them.
Another thing you can do is admit when you’re wrong. We’re all wrong. I’m wrong all the time. I might, I probably said things on this podcast that I was wrong. You don’t know you’re wrong when you’re wrong. Usually, when you’re wrong. When you realize it later on down the road, people change our understandings change and evolve, and it’s only by being open to other perspectives that that is even allowed to happen.
It’s literally how we grow. Listen, I just got done reading the power of now by, and I was smacked by that book. If you have never read it, definitely take me up on that offer to go pick it up from your library or your local bookstore. We are driven by, our ego so much of the time, so much that we don’t even know.
And so much of the way I show up in a lot of the choices that I’ve made. And when I want to hold tight to my rightness is my ego. And so having humility is the ability to say, you know what? I might be wrong. I don’t think that I am, but I could be. So why don’t you tell me what your experiences me and one of my girlfriends do this often we have different views because we’ve had different life experiences?
And one of the many things I love about our relationship is our ability to hold space for each other. Even when our opinions are like oil and water. I have to let go of my ego and she has to let go of hers in order for those conversations that often lead us to growth and new understandings, and we’re willing to listen to each other without trying to sway their beliefs and just talk about our experience and how we see things.
And it leads to new understandings and it’s just brutal. So the next way, I would suggest that you can improve your perspective feeds off of this. And that is just to frankly, be aware of your own biases, be open to it and be okay that they’re there. Like, don’t be mad at yourself that you have them just notice that they’re there and be aware of them.
And when you can feel your own biases coming up, tame them a little, just be open, just be open to hearing new things. So, if you don’t want to do any of that other stuff I just talked about, but you do want to improve your perspective. Just do this mind, your mind. ‘ just a cute way of saying, manage your mindset, be aware of your thoughts, be aware of the feelings your thoughts are creating and manage them.
If you find yourself super negative all the time, but you want to have a better perspective on life. Well, each. You’re going to want to look at that tendency to always lean towards negativity so that you can start making a shift there. And then that will create a new perspective, a new life perspective, a shift.
If you notice when you’re minding your mindset, that there’s a lot of negative. Self-talk that’s going on. Of course, you’re going to have a shitty perspective. You feel bad all the time. And so I would just encourage anybody, listening to take the opportunity to mind your mindset and see where you’re at in your head.
Clean it up. If you don’t like what you see, clean it up, take little steps, small steps lead to big change. At least that’s my perspective. I hope this episode, if it did nothing at all, at least made you think a little bit about where you’re at and where you’d like to be. If there’s a gap. You can fill it.
All it takes is a little bit of time, a little intentional action, and a whole lot of understanding for yourself for other people and this life experience we’re all having together.
Roots change… with every choice we make. Until the next time, you are loved, you are worthy, and you can achieve anything.